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To Blind Date or Not to Blind Date?
February 21, 2011
I used to be a “professional” match-maker it seemed. I was always thinking of a good match for someone I thought was a desirable young man or woman. Though I haven’t done it in more than a decade, the thought occasionally runs through my mind when I hear someone’s story about the challenges in finding the ONE. One of the reasons I stopped going on blind dates myself (when I was single) and stopped setting others up is that there is so-o-o-o-o much emphasis placed on looks and split-second...
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Why Don’t Black Men and Women Dance with Each Other Any More?
February 21, 2011
I recently started taking a ballroom dancing class back in January, and my original experimental interest has morphed into full-blown commitment to learning this art. I was fortunate to happen upon a ballroom dancing club known as KADTS (www.kadtsreallydance.com) in an area of Atlanta known as the West End—one of the last places you’d expect to find ballroom dancing. TJames, the owner and instructor, is a patient and gentle (yet firm) African American instructor whose commitment to dance is...
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Are You Headed for Divorce?
February 21, 2011
Recently, I have been bombarded with news of so many long-standing, “solid” Christian marriages amongst my friends and associates that are now headed for divorce. Additionally, I think the whole country was shocked by the announcement that Al and Tipper Gore were divorcing after FORTY years of what appeared to be blissful matrimony. Sadly, I recently heard on one of my favorite Christian radio talk shows (Living on the Edge hosted by Chip Ingram) that the statistics for divorce among...
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Is My Desperation Showing?
August 16, 2010
Are you finding yourself a bit too eager to find THE ONE that it just shows in your every gesture and facial expression and comment/question posed to a member of the opposite sex. A good male friend recently shared with me that in the 12 or so years that he had been single again following his divorce, he’d had only ONE woman to resist his sexual advances on the first date. He then proceeded to share with me how his “rap” worked. It was so-o-o-o transparent that I thought to myself,...
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Why Don’t Black Men and Women Dance with Each Other Any More?
June 4, 2010
I recently started taking a ballroom dancing class back in January, and my original experimental interest has morphed into full-blown commitment to learning this art. I was fortunate to happen upon a ballroom dancing club known as KADTS (www.kadtsreallydance.com) in an area of Atlanta known as the West End—one of the last places you’d expect to find ballroom dancing. TJames, the owner and instructor, is a patient and gentle (yet firm) African American instructor whose commitment to dance is...
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Do I Have Loneliness Psychosis?
April 16, 2010
Loneliness psychosis is a phrase coined by a friend of mine, Dr. Patricia Earley, and is not, by the way, a real psychiatric diagnosis. My friends and I came to use the expression to explain the puzzling behavior of attractive, smart, capable, friendly and likeable women who enter into and maintain relationship with men who dishonor, demean, discourage, drain, deplete, or destroy them. These men may include the unemployed, the addicted, the abusive, the mean-spirited, the adulterer, or the...
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Can You Ever Really Know Your Man?
April 16, 2010
At one of my recent community forums in Atlanta known as Blue Lights in the Basement where we pick apart a certain topic of the month, the female audience members were stunned to hear outright confirmation of our suspicions that men don’t really WANT to be KNOWN by their spouses or intimate others. Females, of course, are just the opposite (generally speaking). We want our significant others to KNOW US—our fears, hopes, wounds of the past, where we get our hair fixed, our favorite color or...
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Exactly How Is It That Good and Grown Folks are to Abstain from Sex Before Marriage?
April 16, 2010
I hosted a forum on gender differences in sexual relationship some months ago that included a segment on celibacy (if you want a copy of the CD, please contact me). I invited a fine brother, a former college athlete, to stand up and give his testimony on how he and his wife waited until their wedding night to KNOW each other, which is how the bible describes sexual intimacy. His standards far exceeded those that I usually recommend and left everyone in the room intrigued, encouraged, inspired,...
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I Just Don't Get It. Is Your Laptop Your Date?
April 16, 2010
Anyone who knows me well knows that I am not a fan of ever-advancing, new and improved technology and the myriad of interruptions it brings into our lives in the name of making things quicker and better. I know most of you will think I am from another galaxy when I tell you that I do not even send or receive text messages. I decided long ago that I could not withstand one more technological intrusion and keep my sanity and focus. After e-mail, instant messages, snail-mail, cell phone messages,...
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Valentine Blues: I’m Tired of Being Alone. Do I “Settle” for a Blue Collar Guy?”
April 16, 2010
Wow! What a provocative question! Some of you have probably already had a strong reaction already. I can just hear the sisters saying, “I tried that and it didn’t work out; I need someone who is my equal…I can do bad by myself.” OR they may be saying, “I don’t care if he collects trash as long as he’s good to me.” I can hear the brothers saying, “It’s plenty of good men out here, but sisters are turning their noses up at them, thinking they’re too good…they’re just too demanding!” Personally, I...
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Okay, Part II on Grown Folks Abstaining from Sex Before Marriage
April 13, 2010
Here are a few more pointers on a celibate life for the Christian who desires to honor God with such sacrificial obedience to His word. For starters, I’ve seen so many Christian women throw their brains into the garbage when they met a man who agreed to a celibate courtship as though it was THE only standard to consider before marrying. They seem to forget about other requirements like…uh…employment perhaps. Or how about kindness, common interests, family/intellectual/social compatibility, and...